May Affirmations 2026

“I can be soft in my heart, yet firm in my boundaries.” -Alyra Hudson

Boundaries and boundary setting have always been this illusive concept to Me. I’d come to understand it on an intellectual level, but put into practice, combining that with my embodied guidance, and actually setting the boundaries - it’s gotten a bit fuzzy.

I grew up in a family with a default “ride or die” setting. The enmeshment meant we didn’t distinguish whose issues were whose. The expectation, whether spoken or not, was that we show up, no matter what. On the surface, this is admirable, and even makes Me proud, but I would slowly realize that this isn’t sustainable, at least not for Me. I used to think it was just an Aquarius thing, being naturally independent and not liking to feel obligated, so I made my discomfort with over-giving a Me problem. At some point, I’d internalized that I was just selfish and needed to be more willing to sacrifice for those who would do it for Me.

So when first discussing boundaries in therapy, I’d have this misaligned feeling - like it wasn’t something I was supposed to do, like it would impede on one of my values if I had. It felt so distant, like something I could see and understand but never get my grip on to actually put to use. As much as I would hear my therapist and other sources define a boundary as being for the maintenance of a connection and not to throw the connection away, it just wasn’t clicking for Me. I feared that rocking the boat would mean being left behind, so I tried to be a cool girl, feigning lack of care or need in order to just coast even when it didn’t feel good.

This month’s quote is actually an affirmation from a guided meditation that I did every morning while on my vacation. It hit Me the first day, but after about 5 days, it really sank in, in a deep, resonating way. I needed to know that my need for boundaries is real and that setting them is in no way callous. I’m happy to say that up to this point, my journey with boundary setting had already been evolving greatly, I’ve identified the connections that feel safest for Me to set boundaries and have stopped shying away from doing so in those spaces, but there are other spaces where I still need to affirm this.

For Us and all of our valued connections, I offer these affirmations to soothe in this practice:

Taking care of myself is easy for Me to prioritize.

The people I’ve attracted value Me and my needs.

Reciprocity is easeful in all of my connections.

It is safe for Me to set boundaries.

I am well-guided and know what I need to be my best in connections.

I communicate with Love and clarity.

I am Loved and it shows in every phase of my connections.

Love to Us all as we bloom into this brand new month.