September Affirmations 2025

“Gain and loss are two sides of the same thing. Through loss, you gain new things. Through loss, you know the sweetness of gain.” -David Cameron Gikandi

For some years now, I’ve had a more heightened awareness of this concept. I would go through bouts of depression, days when my energy and outlook were so low that I could barely even fathom smiling. I would stay cooped up in my bedroom, my apartment a mess, and I would just allow myself to sink. Then one day, usually a Monday, somehow, I would get up and go outside. I would make a little step toward improving my space (my home and the inside of my mind) and the momentum would just burst from me. All of a sudden, I would be the most pleasant it felt I’d ever been.

All of a sudden, I would understand. I would feel sure that I needed the lowness that I’d just experienced, if for no other reason, to feel the euphoria of the moment I found myself in.

After I became hyper-aware of this pattern, my thoughts about it started to shift. I used to say things like maybe I’m a martyr, maybe I’m meant to suffer in order to transmute that pain into the words you find here on my website, or the words I’d share on my podcasts, or the words I use to comfort someone I’m in community with. Now I see that I’m no different than anyone else - I just choose to do those specific things with the perspective I gain.

There’s so much beauty in that - to know that I’m not alone in this ebb and flow process of life, and that we can all use our moments of loss and lowness to gain profound perspective that helps as we continue along our path. Those moments of loss or lowness are not us veering off of the path, we are meant to feel the fullness of life. With this knowing, this perspective, my hope is that those moments begin to feel like a lighter load.

Here are some affirmations to help us keep this close to mind:

I am strong.

I am resilient.

I am made for everything I go through.

I am more than capable of growing through my points of pain.

I have learned to Love every part of my life.

I am worthy of pleasure and pain does not take that away.

Even with loss, I am winning.

Sending Love to us all as we embark on yet another new month. Breathe into more moments of each day - be present in every swing of your life. It is worth it to feel it all.

(In Spongebob’s Narrator Voice) Nine Hours Later:

Because I am so blessed and lucky to be so tapped in, I finished writing this piece at about 6:15 this morning and as I was leaving to go to the office, I started listening to one of my favorite podcasts, Hidden Brain ( I highly recommend this podcast, by the way - use the links :)). This particular episode called “The Trauma Script” featured a scientist who has spent the last 35 years studying the actual process of people’s trauma and grief as opposed to what has been socialized. The message I left with is that we are not so fragile after all, grief and loss is part of this life, but not all of us are left negatively stained by these experiences. We don’t have to be. It is not as common as we are made to believe to be paralyzed by grief and so easily triggered by our traumas forever. Of course, if you are someone who is deeply suffering, in any way, I pray you get the help you need and deserve. We are not meant to suffer.