The Sculpture

Yesterday, one of my oldest and closest friends, Dayna, said something that lit Me up. I wish I’d thought to get it down verbatim, but essentially, She likened the dating process to making a sculpture. She deduced that every step and process of romantic dating, whether it’s with the same person or new people, is like shaping and perfecting a sculpture. Eventually, the hope is that we’d reach a point when we find that we’ve molded the perfect partner.

Now, I’m not a very visual thinker, but I immediately pictured it. It was Me, from behind. My arms and shoulders moved meticulously, creating something that I couldn’t see at first. Soon, I could see myself backing up, bringing the sculpture into view, and what I’d made was just Me. Typing that out now makes it feel so cliché, but it ignited Me in that moment. I squealed when I realized. Mind You, Dayna and I were still on the phone. So, I shared what I saw with Her and we kept talking, eventually moving on to a new subject.

I am a firm believer in divine timing. I believe everything that comes to us does so when it is perfect for us to receive it. Even if we don’t receive it in that time, that too, I believe, is perfect and on purpose. So, there was something about my mind in this space that made that moment electric. Like, I was meant to hear that, and to see myself visually building and perfecting myself. I was meant to receive that in that moment, and I was in the perfect space (mentally, spiritually, etc.) to do so.

It all clicked. I knew immediately what I meant by it, and what I didn’t. There is a past version of Me who would have taken that thought and that vision a completely different way. She would have thought, “You’re meant to be alone” or “You can only count on yourself”. There isn’t really anything truly negative about these thoughts, they just feel heavy. Yesterday, and right now, I’ve found myself in a space that creates lightness out of thoughts like these.

Now, the thought of Me taking the time and effort to create myself makes Me feel joyous and proud. It shows Me that I’ve chosen to save myself. After all, none of us have the ability to do that for anyone except ourselves. Even if we could, we’d be missing the point. It’s never about what’s happening outside of us. It is always about cultivating the energy that we want to attract, trusting ourselves to be the things we want to see.

When I look closely at the people in my life, romantic and otherwise, I can see a clear depiction of my current values. That’s proof that shaping myself is shaping everything else, and it’s all shaping out beautifully.